We have a hard time letting go of people, even when we know that their existence in our everyday lives has become a hindrance.
Then, we make excuses for the reason we keep them around, you know, so that we can endure more abuse.
"I've known him/her so long."
"That's just who she is."
"I'm used to that behavior from him."
The very things we are wanting to hold on to, are the very things we may one day need to sacrifice.
We are seeking validation from others, and see a departure as being violated. Can we agree to make sure that above all, we honor ourselves, first. You are wanting to know that you are a good person, and you are basing that on how others perceive your treatment of them. Some partnerships come to an end, and, it's okay. It's really okay. No one has to be wrong in order for you to be right. Allow people to be true to themselves, and be true to you.
Let people go, and, allow others to release you.
There's no need to feel hurt when people decide to no longer associate with you. Whatever the reason, it's never personal, and you must decide that above all - you did your best during that reason and you were very instrumental in that season.
"When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering" Don Miguel Ruiz
Let's stop taking other people and their issues personal. Someone may even need to take that advice when dealing with you. It's okay.
Be open to loving people from afar.
When you can't change the people around you, then you will need to change the people around you. Live and learn through the lessons, and spend less time in disappointment. Require no one to change so that you can be more comfortable around them, and know that sometimes what was once comfortable may not be comfortable anymore.
The more you let go of, the more room you open up in your space mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Let go of the old, and cherish the good parts of the experience.
You will be a better person because of it.
Letting go is healthy.
As you release, you gain.